An anxious child may be physically safe, but within themselves they might be battling safety and an overwhelming idea of fear. As parents, it is our job to keep our children safe, not only physically, but also mentally and ensure that they are happy individuals. The question that often arises is that how can we keep them safe from their own minds. Yes we can hold them and listen to them and try to talk them out of it. However, sometimes they believe what the anxiety is telling them so much, that they tend to argue with you and don’t listen to a word you say.
At this point, you have to stay calm, because if you panic, they will panic more knowing that their fear is real, and validates his or her fear. This is the last thing you want your child to think. There are ways you can help them deal with this and get them through it.
Keep them calm
Your children will mirror your reactions. If you get anxious because of their anxiety, your child is going to feel even worse. If you get all worked up, your child will feel that he has something to worry about making the situation even worse. Your child’s fears seem huge to your child, but by reinforcing them, you make it overwhelming for them. If you keep calm and show that there is nothing to be worried about, your child will instantly feel safe and confide in you.
Make your child confidant about his surroundings. Instill the confidence in your child that he is safe when he is with you. You have to make him believe that you are going to be there for him every step of the way, where ever he goes, no matter what he does. When your child knows he has your support, it makes it easier for him to deal with his anxiety. The way you can help your child out of a situation, no amount of counselling can do it for him.
Try to keep an open relationship with your child. There is no need to take them to a good hypnotherapy or any other similar treatment methods to make them spill out what they feel inside them. Let him know that you are available to talk whenever he needs to. Often anxiety and fear build up when it is kept within oneself. This way your child will start thinking of scenarios that make his fear greater in his mind. If he can talk out loud with you, he will be able to get a rational perspective to his fear and you can help him come up with a solution to his problems.
Instead of just talk, make sure you help him do what you decided you would do to help him out with his situation.
All in all, it is important to build a healthy relationship with your child, who knows you have their back whenever he needs one.